After a while, love stops being a feeling and becomes a choice. You have keep choosing your Significant Other every day, every second, no matter what happens, no matter what comes your way. After a while, relationships can get boring, become “routine”, even predictable at times. Other people seem to become attractive and more interesting. You just have to keep choosing them (your S.O.) as long as they’re what you want. This is not to say that your relationship would definitely become a tiresome chore that you have to slave day and night to sustain. Work is involved, yes, but it shouldn’t be a chore. As long as you still love them, you have to keep making the decision to be with them- you have to make them a priority, create time for them.
Work towards being spontaneous, break from the norm, make your relationship fun, and the best part of both your lives. This is because life itself is hard- school, work, bills, even family members. You should work towards being your partner’s safe haven, your partner should be you happy place and vice versa. They should be happy you’re what they have to come back to. This doesn’t have to only be in the physical sense. Be the person they pick up their phone to call/text after a long day to talk/rant to, either because you always know the right things to say to soothe them, or because hearing your voice is the major thing they need to feel calm/better.
Still on the subject of choosing them/to be with them, you have to be able to resist all forms of temptation that come your way. You have to make the choice to be trustworthy, honest and faithful. You have to make the choice to ride for them, and be their biggest fan/cheerleader. You have to decide to be there for them, always, because at the end of the day, it’s just the both of you.
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